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Your Internal Committee
The StepHero™ Community Newsletter
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aka "Accessing Your Inner Light"
Have you ever witnessed the power of a collective light, with each individual light shining so much more brilliantly when part of a greater whole? A dark room becomes illuminated when candles, lit by one source, are raised high in unison. If you’ve never experienced this, I highly recommend doing this as an activity with your whole family.
Each of you has an individual mission to bring high ideals and values back to the family, and each of you can only shine as brightly as your one light can. When you strive towards bringing forth the light in all your family members, your family’s sense of fulfillment and satisfaction will increase exponentially.
A powerful way to encourage the lights of others to shine is to become intimately connected with your own inner light. When you choose to come from a place of inner alignment with who you are and what’s most important to you, everyone in your life benefits as a result. One way to access your inner light is to develop a connection with the four main aspects of your SELF: the emotional, intellectual, physical, and spiritual selves within each of us; what Bob Hoffman calls the Quadrinity*.
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Action Step
You can check in with these four aspects, what I refer to as your “internal committee”, on a regular basis. In order to check in, you will need to sit quietly, breathe deeply and regularly, relax fully, and then go inside, be still and listen.
(What’s being offered here may seem a bit unusual or different for you. When you play with this particular strategy, you may find that you have resistance or judgments about it. That’s fine. Those are coming from your internal "Gremlin," and are probably very familiar responses to anything new. No problem. Thank those thoughts for showing up and name them for what they are – unsupportive and no longer of service to you. Then, test out this strategy and see what emerges for you. If you apply it, you will get results.)
See if you can visualize your emotional self as a small child, waiting for a visit from you. Ask the child what it is feeling about whatever situation is currently up for you in the moment. Listen and watch for an answer – it may be auditory, it may be in pictures, or it may just be a feeling. Wait and see what comes up for you.
Then, take that child’s hand and see your intellectual self, looking much the same as you did that morning. Ask the intellect what it thinks about your current situation, and how it thinks you should approach things. Then check with the child to see what might be missing, or what could be added to the intellect’s thoughts.
Next, check in with your physical body. Notice where there is any tension or pain. Breathe into that area and ask it what is being held there. Ask what the sensations are trying to tell you, and see what comes up for you.
Then, with the three aspects of yourself holding hands, see, standing in front of you, an absolutely radiant version of you (imagine the last time you felt and looked fabulous and had that YES! feeling about yourself and life). This is your highest self, your spiritual self, you self that is unconditionally loving and supportive. Ask your spiritual self what it has to share with you, what words of wisdom or pictures of life it wishes to reveal to you? Be present and notice what emerges – without judgment or even needing to understand. Simply receive what is being offered. And if you cannot, then just notice that too.
Finally, with your internal committee together as a united force, invite your shadow, or dark side (what Richard Carson refers calls your "Gremlin") to come forward into the light. Tell it that it is not welcome as an advisor anymore, and see your spiritual self send it away (for awhile, at least). And know that anytime those negative, familiar, unsupportive thoughts come up again, you can call upon your spiritual self for guidance and support. Allow your higher self to show you how to focus on what is right and good and true about yourself, so that you no longer need to listen to or believe what that negative, dark side has been feeding you for so long.
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Summary
By tuning in to your mind, body, heart, and Spirit, you will continue to bring into your awareness all aspects of how you are aligned with your purpose in your blended family. If any one of those aspects is not in sync with all the others, that is when you need to stop and listen and wait. Use your internal committee on a daily basis as you make choices. Invite them all to be an integral part of your decision-making process. And do not let fears and doubts undermine you. Listen to what you know to be true within and choose to act from that place.
If you find yourself challenged by the above Action Step, contact me at
to schedule a coaching session to get you unstuck.
Wishing you and your blended family all the best,
Emily Bouchard, founder,
www.Blended-Families.com
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